Abuse and Crisis Helplines

Psychotherapy can be an effective means of addressing the aftermath of abuse and all forms of interpersonal mistreatment and can help us develop the life skills necessary for protecting ourselves and meeting our needs in all kinds of relationships.  However, it isn’t intended to be used for crisis intervention. The following is a list of…

Using The Resources Section

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ~Aristotle This resource section contains a large collection of articles I’ve written as psycho-educational material for use exclusively by patients who attend weekly after they complete assessment.  The articles in general are information-dense, providing learning and psycho-educational material free of charge that ordinarily could easily take hundreds…

Psychotherapy Support During the COVID-19 Restrictions

The global response to the Corona Virus (COVID-19) pandemic has resulted in severe restrictions on the citizen’s rights to freely move and travel.  In the UK, at the highest level of restriction, we have been told by government not to leave our homes unless absolutely necessary, leaving millions of people disconnected from friends, family, employment,…

Mindset Part 10: Self-healing and Loving Kindness

Entitlement and Lack of Generosity I looked that the entitlement mindset in an earlier article, which examined how this mindset is a symptom of unmet infantile needs that carry the expectation that other adults owe us something. Freud referred to the Anal stage of child development in his early theories whereby interruption of the stage…

Mindset Part 13: Mental Distress and Suicide

Statistically, suicide is the highest cause of death in men between age 20 and 49.  The suicide statistics are shocking, with greater numbers of men taking their own lives than are killed in road accidents, or by cancer and coronary heart disease.  Of the 6 233 suicides in the UK in 2013 (male and female),…

Emotions Part 14: Dissociative Identity Disorder

Dissociation is our way of coping with experiences that overwhelm our capacity to manage ourselves, our needs and sense of selfhood in relation to the experiences.  We are familiar with the idea of trauma being compartmentalised in the psyche; put away for another day when the experiences, emotions and needs can be addressed.  In my…

Ways of passing the time

Indifference Here I am and there you are.  And there’s the clock on the wall.  I pretend I don’t want anything from you.  You pretend you don’t want anything from me.  Our pretending binds us like a form of artificial intimacy.  And keeps us hungry, a million miles apart. Conversation I pretend I’m listening to…