The Reduction of Being: relating to others as objects

Martin Buber described the mindset required to relate to other beings as objects as the I-It way of relating.  When we relate to other beings as things instead of beings then we view them as objects of utility; assessing their usefulness to us in meeting our needs, rather than honouring them as fellow beings in…

Ways of passing the time

Indifference Here I am and there you are.  And there’s the clock on the wall.  I pretend I don’t want anything from you.  You pretend you don’t want anything from me.  Our pretending binds us like a form of artificial intimacy.  And keeps us hungry, a million miles apart. Conversation I pretend I’m listening to…

The Outsider Part 1: clarifying our place in society

If there’s one area of my work that I have a special interest in it’s working with people who feel like they don’t fit in or who find themselves rejected by the group. I wanted to start writing a series of posts on this subject because of the confusion and assumptions that we typically make…