Mindset Part 10: Self-healing and Loving Kindness

Entitlement and Lack of Generosity I looked that the entitlement mindset in an earlier article, which examined how this mindset is a symptom of unmet infantile needs that carry the expectation that other adults owe us something. Freud referred to the Anal stage of child development in his early theories whereby interruption of the stage…

Mindset Part 13: Mental Distress and Suicide

Statistically, suicide is the highest cause of death in men between age 20 and 49.  The suicide statistics are shocking, with greater numbers of men taking their own lives than are killed in road accidents, or by cancer and coronary heart disease.  Of the 6 233 suicides in the UK in 2013 (male and female),…

Emotions Part 12: Dissociative Identity Disorder

Dissociation is our way of coping with experiences that overwhelm our capacity to manage ourselves, our needs and sense of selfhood in relation to the experiences.  We are familiar with the idea of trauma being compartmentalised in the psyche; put away for another day when the experiences, emotions and needs can be addressed.  In my…

Recovering your self in 7 days

Hollowday There’s a hollow in me; an absence.  Like a piece of furniture missing from a room I haven’t been in for years.  I enter knowing something’s changed and I can’t say what.  There’s just the feeling.  Hollow. Dumbday I feel dirty on the inside.  I scrub the outside; wet hair, towel and soap, and…

Emotions Part 13: PTSD, cPTSD, and Dissociative Experiences

I wanted to write something about the relationship some of us have to traumatic experiences from our past.  It seems important that I write this from an intuitive, non-technical place.  For me, this is because intution – as opposed to fear – is what we need to develop regarding our power to manage our way…